tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-89161496366648700152024-03-05T18:31:15.637+10:30And The World Keeps Turning'Living outside the norm'Jennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8916149636664870015.post-7861546088220289342024-01-12T17:09:00.000+10:302024-01-12T17:09:09.766+10:30Is this happening more than we like to think?<br />
How would it feel to find out, after your husband died, that he was really your father? Is this happening more than we would like to think? Is Genetic Sexual Attraction on the rise?<br />
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<a href="http://marriage-equality.blogspot.com.au/2012/09/did-valerie-spruill-experience-gsa.html">http://marriage-equality.blogspot.com.au/2012/09/did-valerie-spruill-experience-gsa.html</a><br />
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Thank you to Full Marriage Equality for bringing this one to our attention.<br />
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<a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2163376/Mistie-Atkinson-Mom-sex-tape-son-16-claims-just-case-genetic-attraction.html">http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2163376/Mistie-Atkinson-Mom-sex-tape-son-16-claims-just-case-genetic-attraction.html</a>Jennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8916149636664870015.post-7984120571398798802012-01-18T22:58:00.001+10:302012-01-18T23:03:19.692+10:30Soar: Female Voices of GSAThis is a wonderful site that gives a voice to women who have experienced Genetic Sexual Attraction. Softly spoken yet yelling loud this site is updated regularly with the experiences of individuals. These women speak truthfully of their pain, heartache, love and life in the hope of being heard, accepted and a help to many worldwide.<br />
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<br />Jennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8916149636664870015.post-39629883622001853992012-01-17T16:21:00.003+10:302012-01-17T16:23:29.425+10:30Today in the newsThe following is a link to an interesting report on Polyamory that was aired on the Australian morning show Sunrise.<br />
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<br />Jennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8916149636664870015.post-53193606228943534792011-03-31T12:46:00.000+10:302011-03-31T12:46:33.940+10:30A Love That Dare Not Speak It's Name<i> This article was written by a dear friend of mine, Carlos Devillalvilla, who resides in America. Here Carlos shows his compassion for those who find love in a place that is outside the norm. Married and with a child of his own Carlos does not love outside of the 'norm' yet chooses to show compassion and understanding for the rights of all to love.</i><br />
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<i> Articles by Carlos can be read each month in<a href="http://goodgabble.blogspot.com/"> Good Gabble Newzine</a>.</i><br />
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Love comes in all shapes and sizes. It’s never the same way twice, even for the same couple. It evolves and changes as we evolve and change. But we still pursue it and when we find that special someone, the one we <em>know </em>we want to be with forever and ever, taking the next step can still be tricky. There are always doubts, there’s always fear. But, usually in the end, there’s always that feeling that while you’re life may be changing, it’s changing for the better.<br />
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That’s what marriage gives us – the arena to declare our commitment to each other, the means of joining two lives into one life together. It’s something of a miracle – considering the percentage of marriages that end up in divorce. Even so, when a marriage works it is the closest we humans get to heaven on Earth.<br />
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Marriage isn’t for everybody. Some people are just fine without it, but I believe that anyone who chooses to live together, join their lives and fortunes together are married whether any institution recognizes it or not.<br />
Which is why I get so angry at all the so-called ‘Good Christians’ who seem hell-bent on preventing gay marriage. “It’s an abomination. Marriage is between a man and a woman period. The purpose of marriage is for procreation period. It shouldn’t be permitted because the Bible says it’s a sin.”<br />
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The Bible says lots of things are sins. Some of them are very much sinful, but others are kind of ridiculous and nobody really pays attention to them anymore. Apparently, sodomy is a sin – but most married couples (and plenty of unmarried ones) practice it every day. I don’t hear anybody moaning to make a law about that.<br />
The fact of the matter is that there are no practical reasons to prevent it. If marriage exists solely for the procreation aspect, then should childless couples be forced to divorce? Should those who state from the beginning they don’t <em>want </em>children then not be allowed to marry? Of course not – and nobody says that those things should come to pass.<br />
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In fact the only reason that most people can truly give for gay marriage to be prevented is the belief that marriage should exist only between a man and a woman and that belief stems from only one source – the Bible. Now, I’m no expert on the Bible and I’m not here to bash it – there are a lot of valuable lessons in it that apply now three millennia after it was written, and that’s impressive. But I am one of those heathens who believe that the Bible shouldn’t be a source for civil codes of law.<br />
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I’m also one of those hopeless romantics who believes that love is a <em>good </em>thing no matter what form it takes and it should be celebrated as the precious commodity that it is. Yes, I’m a pansy and I admit it – love is more important to me than hate. Kissing is better to me than killing. I’d rather spend my day screwing the one I love rather than screwing people out of their cash, if you’ll forgive some bluntness.<br />
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I like to think I have a pretty decent moral compass. I like to think also that I’m fairly ethical. So it ticks me off when people say “If you believe that gay marriage is all right than you’re immoral.” That kind of thing is a crock. Morality has to do with what’s right and not following a 3,000 year old book (or more to the point, how people interpret that 3,000 year old book) lockstep.<br />
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Where I have to diverge from the Biblical aspects of the debate is solely the human terms. I’ve known a number of gay people in my life and I’m honored to call some of them close friends. I’ve also known a number of gay people in my life who are utter assholes.<br />
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The thing is, they are people. Just like you, just like me. You may not approve of who they are attracted to – but then again, I don’t approve of some of the people <em>straight </em>people are attracted to. But it’s none of my business to tell someone who to love. It’s not my place to even join that conversation. All I know is I found someone to love and that’s all I really need. If that makes me an expert, okay but quite frankly, given my romantic track record, I’m probably not the person to advise <em>anybody </em>on their love lives.<br />
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To me, the state shouldn’t be sticking its nose into anybody’s love life. Most conservatives believe that the state shouldn’t be regulating anyone’s personal life or at least as little as possible. However they seem to be okay about it when it comes to gay men and lesbians. In fact, they go out of their way to enact legislation or author ballot propositions that abrogate the right to marry for gay people.<br />
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Disallowing gay marriage marginalizes gay people. It trivializes them. It makes them second class citizens, social slaves. They can work, they can contribute to the economy but let them get married and enjoy life with their partners? No way Jose! And while we’re at it, Jose get your ass back over the border to Mexico where you belong! I don’t <em>care </em>if you have a green card. Skeedaddle. But don’t forget to pick the cotton we hired you to do boy!<br />
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Okay, the last might be a bit extreme but the mentality is the same in my book, or at least springs from the same source. It’s the kind of thinking that I find repulsive, that someone is less important than you because of something about them, be it their skin color, their religion or their sexual orientation. If you voted to make gay marriage illegal, it is <em>exactly </em>the same as voting to ban African-Americans from voting or for Jews to be sent to ghettos. Yes, I’m calling you a Nazi and a Klansman. Sorry if it’s painful, but the shoe fits you like Cinderella and her glass slipper.<br />
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I’m sure that’s going to make some people angry and maybe even strain or break a few friendships and I’m truly sorry for that. But I also hope it makes some people <em>think </em>about what they’re doing. Think about what the source of this all is. It’s not coming from a place of love, but from a place of hate and fear. As I said, I’m no expert on the Bible but I <em>do </em>know that it was meant to be a document generated out of love. Most of what Christ preached was about looking out for one another, caring for one another and loving one another. Is denying people the rights and privileges of marriage an act of love? Or an act of hate? You tell me.Jennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8916149636664870015.post-32726141494660050522011-01-30T22:45:00.000+10:302011-01-30T22:45:16.265+10:30Lets get this book rolling in 2011 This year is the year of And The World Keeps Turning, along with continuing with <a href="http://goodgabble.blogspot.com/">Good Gabble Newzine</a>, introducing another newzine to the market and finding an illustrator for my children's picture book.<br />
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Whilst travelling Australia with Good Gabble I have meant many interesting people with very diverse lifestyles. If you live in any of the following relationships or know of someone who does I would love to chat.<br />
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An open relationship<br />
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Claivoyants, mediums, psychic<br />
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<i>If you see it as 'normal' and others don't ( or you feel they don't ) then please drop me a line. I would love chat. All information shared is in confidence and may be anonymous.</i><br />
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email me ( Jennifer ) at andtheworldkeepsturning@gmail.comJennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8916149636664870015.post-44080621635702471332010-04-29T19:13:00.003+09:302010-04-29T19:17:11.795+09:30PolygamyI am currently researching polygamy and am seeking to talk to those who live in a poly family or who have experienced polygamy. All correspondence is in confidence. No names or email address will be given to any third parties or used within this book.Jennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8916149636664870015.post-64085002005820666352009-11-28T19:46:00.003+10:302009-11-28T19:51:09.417+10:30Abstract Art<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLvkQ_hl8bN_NRhZEW9NwL-vJbYuRMGIexIna_nfnnDBxkqvUeRUItbGjDUewHniZt66u2FXHb08jTPMYcooilUx27lRkfyU90mvmAruX2Q65KK4xhfz-kJfwM4d1Pb7zlGXgq77HW_JM/s1600/DSC_0025.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLvkQ_hl8bN_NRhZEW9NwL-vJbYuRMGIexIna_nfnnDBxkqvUeRUItbGjDUewHniZt66u2FXHb08jTPMYcooilUx27lRkfyU90mvmAruX2Q65KK4xhfz-kJfwM4d1Pb7zlGXgq77HW_JM/s320/DSC_0025.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5409081765858908994" border="0" /></a><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold; color: rgb(255, 102, 0);">DNA - The Only Connection<br /></div>Jennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8916149636664870015.post-59436580197906011122009-11-28T18:25:00.002+10:302009-11-28T18:26:58.042+10:30Alternative Love - The Square Peg In The Round HoleAlternative adj. 1. (of one or more things ) available or usable instead of another.<br /> 2. (of two things ) mutually exclusive. 3. of or relating to practices that offer a substitute for the conventional one.<br /><br />Love n. 1. Deep affection or fondness. 2. Sexual passion 3. A beloved one; a sweetheart ( often as a form of address )<br /><br />Source: DK Illustrated Oxford Dictionary 2003<br /><br /> To love is to be human. We love our food, our animals, our belongings, ourselves. Love has a different meaning for each individual but is always the bonding with one or more particular things. Here I wish to talk of interpersonal love - the love between two people.<br /> Alternative love is a love that is found outside of the “norm”. A love that society finds hard to accept or allow. A love that is judged. One that finds those who feel it in a battle of explanation and acceptance. It is not only the love of one man and one women but the love of humans as they choose to love. It is about the right to be gay, lesbian, bisexual, intersexual, trans gendered or swinging couples. To love via genetic sexual attraction. To enjoy a relationship that is submissive or dominant. To be polygamous and live in a communal setting sharing more than one partner. It is about the right to love. The right to express our love as consenting adults as we so freely feel. A line must only been drawn when an alternative love involves abuse, the harm of another, or a minor.<br /> Alternative relationships are slowly becoming culturally acceptable but still there is little understanding from those who practice heterosexual monogamous relationships within the “norm” Love is a necessity. Everyone needs it. We sing about it, we write poems about it, we watch movies about it. Our world spins on an axle of love. We cannot survive without it. Those who struggle with love often find themselves with feelings of isolation and depression. We need to give as well as receive. We seek and we find, but not always in places we expect.<br /> Society is full of morals ,beliefs and creeds, rules and laws, symbolism, traditions and power. Society is a structured form of control. Step outside of the square of control and you will be liable for judgement and persecution. Although this world is one of individuals who share the similar interest of life it is the majority of these individuals who are under the control of authorities, media and the mind power that form our society. Those who choose to think and live outside of this social structure cause a fear of the unknown as they challenge the structure and it’s system. Within this social structure we see warranted laws and beliefs that protects one from abuse and harm. These help those within the structure live within peace and safety.<br /> Love and sex, without power and abuse, are a cause for celebration not for shame. Love should be about freedom of the body and the mind. Freedom to relax and enjoy. Freedom to be at one with oneself and the other who shares this immense feeling. To love is to offer one the greatest of all gifts. To be loved is to feel wanted and needed. Love can build self esteem and self worth. It heightens our outlook on life and places us in a position where we feel desired and desire to be. The judgement, non acceptance, bullying and harsh treatment that society places on those who choose to love alternatively takes away this celebration of love. It removes the peace and freedom that love can bring and replaces it with condemnation and heartache. It causes confusion, loss of self worth and loss of self esteem. It causes many to live double standards within their life. To live with deceit and lies. To make choices that they should not need to make. It causes heartache to not only those who love but those who are associated with this love, finding a need to protect and shelter the lovers.<br /> Still today society quickly lays blame, intolerance and judgement on those who love alternatively. A lot of this judgement comes from the fear that one carries around inside oneself. To some degree it is based on ones degree of ignorance and intolerance level and on our social inclination to group people in ways which allow us to find order in a complex world. Humans, as social beings, also have a personal preparedness to protect their own by defining others as essentially different from themselves. We define and classify those around us in order to sort our own belonging. I have often read that judgement (whether openly acknowledged or not) represents beliefs and attitudes which are based on ignorance, misunderstandings, fear and sometimes others’ powerlessness. It is a commonly seen that people who have experiences outside the ‘norm’ do not judge others. Their feeling of fear no longer needs to be defended. They no longer feel threatened by others and find comfort in knowing that others do not judge them. It is not until one finds themselves in a similar situation will one stop judging. There is truth in the old saying “ Walk a mile in ones shoes before you judge them”<br /> Over the years society has changed and will continue to do so but not without a long hard battle for many to come. Change is slow. Far too slow. Too many hurt and too many are in pain. Too many families fall apart due to societies lack of understanding and acceptance. Morals and laws change slowly but not before many pay the price. As the strength and unity of those who choose to live a life of alternative love grows so will that of the understanding of society. It is love that makes this world go around. It is with love, and education, that tolerance and peace will grow.<br /><br /><span style="font-size:78%;">(c) Jennifer Deaves</span>Jennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8916149636664870015.post-375843622511253742009-11-14T17:51:00.001+10:302009-11-14T17:51:57.122+10:30Can you help!I am a writer who lives an alternative lifestyle. I am an advocate for the rights of all to live freely without judgement in a lifestyle that suits their needs as long as it is not harming another. I am currently working on a book which represents those who live outside the 'norm'. 'And the world keeps turning' is a book of one passion for life, of their freedom and their individuality. It speaks for all and shows that regardless of what society may feel or think the world continues to turn whilst they choose to condemn. It is not those who live alternatively that are doing the world the harm but those who choose to judge, consume and use the resources of our environment.<br /> "And the world keeps turning' asks for a little respect and understanding of choices one makes. It seeks awareness of all walks of life and shows unite of those in alternative lifestyles.<br /><br /> If there is anyone out there who would love to share their story with me I would love to hear it. I aim to represent as vast a majority of lifestyles as possible. Please email me at doublecreations@gmail.com.Jennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8916149636664870015.post-57492134819830909532009-11-06T22:22:00.000+10:302009-11-06T22:47:32.111+10:30So here I am......<span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family: times new roman;"> So why am I here?<br /><br /> I suppose the main reason I am here is to tell the world, especially Australia, about one of the books I am currently working on. By now you would have worked out that the title of this book is And The World Keeps Turning 'Living outside the norm in Australia'.<br /><br /> This book is a tribute to all those who are proud to live outside the 'norm' of society. It tells of the different lifestyles people choose to live within Australia. To the shock of most the world continues to turn. We do not fall off and gravity does not cease to exist due to those who choose 'to be different'.<br /><br />" It takes all sorts to make the world go around" and this book will show it.<br /><br /> If you feel you are fighting others within Australia to live the way you wish. If you feel a need to show society that you we can live in peace and harmony regardless of our choice of lifestyle. If you feel there is a need for harmony within this large land of ours. If you live 'outside the square in an alternative way, no matter how small or large, I would like to hear from you.<br /><br /> I am seeking stories from the purple sheep in the paddock. This is a book for you!<br /><br /><br /> Publishers - If you are seeking to publish a book which shouts difference. Which shows acceptance of people for who they are and their right to be individuals. A book which speaks the truth about the diversity of Australians. A book that shows that all is not black and white within our land. That shows that the world does continue to turn even though some choose to fight against it's system of beliefs, ideals and morals, then this is the book you are seeking. A book that will keep all Australians turning the pages and wondering how the neighbours next door really live.<br /></span></span>Jennifer Deaveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01472121751280924731noreply@blogger.com0